With porn all over the internet and kids sexting, are there taboos left??
With Virginia on the verge of striking down their cohabitation laws and seeing “news” like this http://www.foxnews.com/scitech/2012/06/14/teen-sexting-still-rampant-study-reveals/ makes it seem like the world has gone topsy-turvy sex mad!
There is one thing in the age of texting, facebooking, and decreasing face-to-face communication that has, unfortunately, become increasingly taboo: Talking to ones partner. This is also the key to having a happy and healthy sexual relationship.
Here are a few tips from SheKnoreminisce, conversation, ws.com:
•TIMING IS EVERYTHING: Pick a good situation and ditch the distractions. Pay attention to your body language. We send signals both ways that may differ from what we say to our partner.
•DON’T MIND READ: You can’t be a mindreader, no matter how long you’ve known or been with your partner. Don’t assume you know what feels good to them, or what gives them pleasure; always ask. For example, “Which activities do you find the most pleasurable?”
•REMINISCE: A good way to start a sex conversation is to remember back to the first several times you and your partner had sex. What did you enjoy? What make it exciting? Bring up the good times with your partner and talk about how exciting things were. This will lead to conversation about what’s going on in your sex life currently.
•WATCH A MOVIE: Another good way to start a sex conversation is to use a movie or TV show that you’ve watched where a couple discussed sexuality. Ask your partner what they thought of the discussion? What was challenging about the discussion? Can the two of you discuss (or do the two of you view) sexuality differently?
•DON’T BLAME: Let your partner know how you feel by using “I” statements not “you” statements. Say,”I feel insecure when we don’t have sex frequently” or “I miss having sex with you” rather than “You never want to have sex.” Ask your partner what you can do to make things better or to improve your sex life.
•GIVE HIM TIME: Remember to give your partner time to respond and think. Many of us don’t have the vocabulary to talk about sexuality in general, so your partner may need time to process and think about what you say. Men will have a different vocabulary than women.
•DON’T EVER BE ACCUSATORY: If you want to improve your sex life, you can’t make your partner feel inadequate. Instead, keep things light-hearted and introduce ways to make sex with your partner more fun. Share fantasies, discuss new positions or introduce the possibility of using sex toys.
The only way you are going to get what you want in the bedroom is to let your partner know. Put away your inhibitions and open up the lines of communication.
NOW – a cool quiz in case you really just wanted to find out about some crazy things: http://www.livescience.com/18962-sex-quiz-myths-taboos-facts.html